19 Dec

I have been reading all these blogs about relationships, good and bad, and what to do about them. The things we man should do and shouldn’t do, although it takes two people to have a relationship. Two people that are truthful to each other.  I myself much rather know the truth then live with the hurt and pain that the lies cause. The longer you live that lie the harder it is to tell the truth later on, you are not the only one getting hurt. If you have children, they get hurt, family, friends, everybody gets hurt. People need to own their own responsibilities and faults and deal with them accordingly, not blame someone else. It always seem that when there is a bad relationship it is the man fault, but thats not always the case. Sometimes the woman is to blame, like I said it take two people to have a relationship. And when she is the one to blame she needs to pull up her panties and be woman enough to say I am Sorry.


9 Responses to “MAN HAVE FEELINGS TO”

  1. anitadickons December 19, 2011 at 4:08 am #

    I agree I think men get a really bad rap in general when it coms to relationships ending and the aftermath of that. I think the reasons are complex and many for why relationships break down but one thing is for sure there are 2 people in it and both are responsible for their part or lack of in keeping it alive. Relationships are like cars if you don’t service them and oil them and change the worn out parts they break down. Men and women are very different and the more we understand and celebrate those differences the better.

    • jimlparsons December 19, 2011 at 4:10 pm #

      I thank you commenting. And it does take two people for a relationship, but when the feeling are gone then they both need to suck it up and handle it like adults.

  2. valentinelogar December 19, 2011 at 12:48 pm #

    Yes, indeed men have feelings that can be hurt in the course of a relationship. Yes relationships can go bad and sometimes it is the woman that shares the greater blame. Sometimes though it is simply the nature of the relationship and the incompatibility of the two people involved. It is a sign of maturity to accept there is no real fault and move on, it is likely both partners are hurt by their bad choices and bad decisions during the course of relationship that wasn’t meant to be.

    Demanding apologies and refusing to accept there is none due is immature and irresponsible. There comes a time when it simply like picking at a scab to see if what is underneath will still bleed, it will if you don’t allow it to heal.

    People move in and out of relationships for many reasons, sometimes feeling change, sometimes feelings simply are not returned. It is impossible to force another person to act or feel the way in which you want them to. Involving others in the battle simply creates more drama and exacerbates the problem, causing more hurt feelings and ultimately forcing people to choose sides.

    Blaming others for failed relationships is ridiculous. Refusing to accept endings for what they are instead trying to find external reasons; cheating for example where there was none simply shows a refusal to accept contribution to endings. As with all relationships there are always two people involved, nothing happens in a vacuum, nothing is ever one sided.

    The road to healing is accepting endings and accepting your part in them. Stop trying to find fault in the other person, accept that it was simply the wrong relationship at the wrong time in both of your lives. Unfortunate and hurtful as this may be, it is simply the truth of the matter. Stop demanding apologies that will not ever be forthcoming, this is the road to perdition and will only continue anger you. Stop seeking the external sources for why, this also only hurts you and fuels your anger especially when it is in your head not fact based. Stop seeking to hurt others in your anger and hurt, let go so you can start to have a life that is yours and only yours this is the only way you will finally heal.

    Yes, men can be hurt. But men, just like women must get up and start again.

    • jimlparsons December 19, 2011 at 4:15 pm #

      Thank you Val, I value insight on this article. Relationships can be a dangerous place to be, people tend to get hurt and hurt deeply. Maybe though time the wounds can be healed. Thank you again for your valued information.

  3. suehelms December 19, 2011 at 1:15 pm #

    Yes, sometimes it is both parties faults. Some times it is the mans fault,Totally. Sometimes it is the women’s fault totally. It all depends on their situation. They have to take responsibly for their own actions and what they say.

    • valentinelogar December 19, 2011 at 1:43 pm #

      It is never one persons fault, ever.

    • jimlparsons December 19, 2011 at 4:20 pm #

      Sue, this is so true, people have faults, and we all make mistakes. It what we do after the faults and mistakes that matter.

  4. Jean December 20, 2011 at 4:39 am #

    Relationships are something both parties have to work at. If one of the parties does not then the relationship will not last. Communication has to be a strong point in any relationship if there is a lack of it then the relationship is strained. When a relationship fails as far as I am concerned there is no fault it is just a failure and a part of life. Yes it hurts but life exists after. You pick yourself up dust yourself off and move on. Life changes it might not be what we want it to be. Who know there may be something more rewarding in our future….

    • jimlparsons December 20, 2011 at 5:54 am #

      First, Jean let me thank you for stopping by to comment. And I agree with you that communication plays a big part in a relationship, but both people need to be open with each for this to work. And picking yourself up and dusting yourself off is easier said then done. But surely can be done. Thank you again.

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